5 Common Signs of Sex Addiction

Sex addiction is one of the lesser known and talked about addictions. This is due in large part because people aren’t very comfortable discussing sex. Also, many people don’t understand that this is a real addiction, with painful and sever consequences. Despite the lack of discussion about sex addiction, it is a growing problem. The availability of Internet porn on computers, laptops and mobile devices makes it easy for people that are vulnerable to addictions to get sucked in. Therefore, it is important to be able to identify some of the common signs of this addiction.1. Risk of Damaging or Losing RelationshipsSex addicts tend to shut themselves off from others as their addiction grows. This is in order to engage in their addictive behaviors more frequently as well as to keep it a secret. They become anxious and even agitated when they cannot engage in their compulsive behaviors and will push others, including loved ones away. If you notice that your partner or loved one is becoming increasingly isolated from you and the rest of your family, it may be an indication of sex addiction.2. Leading a Double LifeIn order to keep their secret, addicts tend to try to balance their normal lives with their sexually addictive behaviors. At the start, they may be able to keep up this balancing act, but as their addiction spirals out of control, partners, family members and friends will begin to see signs of a double life. While keeping certain sexual activities secret from a partner may be harmless, it also may be worth evaluating in relation to the other signs. Catching an addiction early can help prevent a long recovery and some severe consequences.3. Unable to Stop Despite a Strong DesireThis is a definite sign of addiction. Someone who wished to stop his or compulsive behaviors but can’t, even when facing dire consequences, has a sex addiction. Unlike the other signs, this one is easy to spot. Unfortunately, once this sign is identified, it is too late. He or she will already be hooked and will require professional help in the form of a recovery program combined with individual and group therapy.4. Escalation of the Addictive BehaviorsSex addiction, like other addictions, escalates over time. What may have started out as a pleasurable and seemingly harmless porn viewing from time to time will become all-consuming. You may find yourself viewing increasingly explicit porn. Porn that would have been offensive at the start will become arousing and exciting. The escalation may lead to acting out sexually in many different and once unthinkable ways. If you identify an escalation in sexual behaviors in yourself or a loved one, it is important to get help.5. Legal and Financial ProblemsAs sex addictions escalate, they can cause addicts to engage in illegal sexual activities such as sexual harassment, stalking, voyeurism, exhibitionism, sexual assault and even rape. This can lead to severe legal consequences. Likewise, an out of control and escalating addiction can lead to serious financial consequences. Sex is a multi-billion dollar industry and addictions can become expensive with illicit relationships, adult chat lines, prostitutes, hotel bills and any number of other sex related expenses. Out of control spending combined with potential job loss due to poor work performance can lead to severe financial difficulties.While these signs are common indications of sex addiction, they may not mean that you or a loved one has an addiction. It is not uncommon for people to view pornography, for example, but if the overall list of signs adds up, or you feel that you or a loved one has an addiction, it is important to seek help as soon as possible. Getting help early on in an addiction can prevent a great deal of painful emotional, financial and legal consequences that go along with sex addiction.

Using Adult Toys to Enhance Relationships

Adult Toys are a great way to experience new things in the bedroom. Most adult Novelties can provide direct stimulation and arousal, and many couples are turning to adult toys to help spice things up. Although some couples may feel embarrassed or uncomfortable using adult toys to help stimulate their love life, in reality experimenting with sex toys can actually create can openness between you and your partner. Using adult toys can help you experience new areas of arousal and pleasure together, and help you better understand how to please your partner. The main reason couples feel uncomfortable using sex toys together is because they have never used them before, its something unfamiliar. If you and your partner are ready to embark on a new, romantic, passionate adventure together these toys may be just what you need to get started.Not only can these toys help couples become more open sexually with one another, sex toys are appealing because they are relatively inexpensive. Buying a toy is a one time purchase that can provide multiple opportunities of passion for you and your partner in the bedroom. Adult toys also come in a variety of sizes and models and can be used by the inexperienced and experienced alike. If you are new to the world of adult toys, do your research on the differences between products. You may chose to include your partner as you shop around for just the right adult toy, or you may chose to surprise him/her with your purchase.If you and your partner are new to the world of adult toys, adult games, or enhancers, then start off slow. Make sure that whatever you try is something that you both feel comfortable trying. If one partner feels awkward or uncomfortable it will impact the overall experience of both people. Recognize that sex, like other qualities of your relationship, requires time and effort to keep things alive and going strong. Just as individuals change throughout time, you also have to adapt your sexuality and sensuality with the relationship. Being open to trying new things in the bedroom and being adaptable to change is just one way that your love life can grow and flourish.Adult novelties are just one way that couples can enhance their relationship, other options include lubes, adult games, lingerie, and adult videos. A common misconception is that these enhancers are used to replace having a partner. And, while that may be true in some circumstances, it is certainly not always so. Remember that in order for a couple to grow their sexual relationship they must be open with each other, and be willing to understand what pleases their partner. Enhancers may simply be a way to help you and your partner get your sexual adventure started. If you have some experience using adult Novelties then you already know the benefits that come from using them. If you are new to the world of adult toys then the adventure is ahead of you!

Teenage Sex

It has been many years since I was a teenager. However, the mind is a strange thing and time, in the mind does not work within what we perceive as normal reality. Therefore, I can still remember clearly my thoughts and feelings as a young person discovering the joys of the opposite sex.Lots of differing thoughts go through the mind of a teenager when with another person. What does the other person want? What will he or she let me do? What is safe to do? Have I been told everything I should know? What will others think? I would imagine one thing that will not be on the list is what should I be doing or not be doing by the letter of the law.Yet as parents and others in authority contemplate the best way forward, the press reports on one horrible story after another. Many stories of 20-40 year old people having sex with under 16 year olds with many individuals even becoming pregnant, because of this.The world teenage pregnancy rates are massively high and governments have launched a variety of measures to try to reduce them. However, in my view laws can only play a really small role in preventing teenage sex. At the end of the day if teenagers want to do it, they will.Girls cannot lawfully have sex until they are 16. But there are even tougher rules for girls under 13. The law says that when a girl is under 13 she is not mature enough to consent to sex. So if she is just 12 and willingly has sex, the law says she has not “consented” to it because she doesn’t have the maturity to know what she’s doing. This means that anyone who has sex with a girl under 13 is committing “statutory rape”. There is absolutely no defense for this charge even if a person says they thought the other person was older than he or she was, or that he or she wanted to have sex.The maximum sentence for this is life, but average sentences for rape are about seven years.However, my thoughts are more around two under 16s having sex. Currently if they did it would be illegal. However, this law is not widely enforced. Even if the law did get involved generally no one is prosecuted. Parents are in an impossible position. If they are aware of under 16s having sex they could theoretically risk being prosecuted themselves for aiding and abetting this illegal act.This could even happen if they permitted the sex to take place in their own house, or even if they supplied them with a condom for the act.The government’s bid to reduce teenage sex is more focused on sex education and encouraging parents to talk to their children about sex. However, there is an argument that the more you push sex education the higher the instances of under age sex occur.Some countries are interesting examples of a differing view of under age sex. Some accept that young people will become sexually active as part of their natural development and therefore talk freely and discuss issues with teenagers rather than tell them how wrong the act is.Within countries that take this type of approach teenagers become sexually active at a later age and the teenage conception rates are very low.My thoughts as on many issues is that we need to treat teenagers more as adults and not try to dictate to them how they should behave but attempt to advise and assist. People should try to recall their teenage years and remember the thoughts that were going on in their heads. Teenagers have a lot to cope with and need to be treated with respect. They are the future of our world. Let’s not try to ruin them.We do not own the young, we are just guides.